This week I was asked by @SteveMcCue1 to write a guest blog but thought I would share it here too.
Dear all you amazing Mums and Dads,
I can still remember being told I had to go through tests to find out ‘what I had’. I can remember feeling so patronised throughout my whole assessment. After years of learning support and feeling different my mum decided to get me tested by an educational psychologist. I also felt different and inadequate but do you know what was nice? Was to have a label. It was nice to actually have an ‘excuse’ so I could tell people ‘sorry may not look right, I have dyslexia.’ I think parents go into panic mode and can end up making things a lot worse. But I remember thinking it was great to learn what I had and meant I could research better ways to cope.
I believe one of the biggest mistakes parents make is to feel sorry for their child. I read recently somewhere that a high percentage of entrepreneurs are dyslexic. Yes they probably all struggled at school like your child will probably struggle, but school is such a small part of someone’s life in the grand scheme of things. I meet with straight A, 1st Class honour degree types of people every day that can’t seem to get a job, mainly due to their lack of social skills. It would seem to do well in school or University you have to have the top grades. Yes I did think that but not any more. Life is an experience, a gift and after school your life is not defined by exams results. I was lucky enough to be encouraged to pursue different avenues that highlight my strengths by my parents. Failure is a horrible feeling. So why make exam results the talk of the town in your household? We should be encouraging our children in every aspect not just academic. If they have a flair for sport, music, drama, debating, public speaking whatever it may be, encourage it!
I quite often look through Twitter and see people talking about having Dyslexia and being Dyslexic and how down they are. This genuinely upsets me as people are measuring themselves on numbers or letters that are on a piece of paper. All I want to do is tell them it will be ok and bet they can achieve so much. I recently wrote down all the negative things about me and all the positives. when I did it I had way more negatives than positives. I then asked my friends, colleagues and family to do the same for me and they gave me much more positives than negatives. We really are our own worst enemy, we focus on the negatives and don’t embrace the positives. I sometimes wonder how many more Einsteins, Robin Williams’, David Bowies’ etc we could have had out there if people were more positive.
I read something recently that said ‘We are not born with insecurities, we create them.’ Do you think any babies out there are paranoid how they look, think or act? No! Because they are not aware yet and cant’ read things on social media or over-hear things being said about them. People in general are also bad at encouraging their friends and family or telling them how amazing they are. If anyone out there is reading this and struggles in life in any capacity (school, employment, social skills etc) then all I ask is ask anyone you know to write down three traits about yourself and I guarantee none of them will be negative. If , like me, you never felt like you would be successful; take all the lovely traits people have said about you and embrace them! Find a career where you can use these traits. You will be successful!
Kind regards,
Amie
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